Relationships: Resolving Conflicts
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How can we resolve conflicts with other people? One method is avoidance. If you have a habit of avoiding, you have probably noticed that it doesn’t really work very well. It certainly won’t cause you to walk around wearing a big smile on your face.
A second method of conflict resolution is confrontation. Unfortunately, this often ends up with both people yelling at each other. Especially when both people believe they are right, confrontation may end up with the conflict escalating out of control. That doesn’t sound appealing either!
One relationship expert says that there are 3 steps in conflict resolution:
*Communicate
*Negotiate
*Compromise
If you feel that you have tried these methods and they didn’t resolve the conflict, here are a few tips that might make your difficult discussions more successful. First, keep in mind that most human beings’ instinctive reactions are either flight, fight, or co-exist. This system of instincts is very similar in the animal kingdom.
Whether the discussion involves just two people or a much larger group, speaking in the first person is better than saying “you†since that makes others feel attacked. Remember to take responsibility for your own actions, reactions, and feelings. Don’t blame others for how you are reacting.
Attacking other people will not produce the result you really want. Keep the issues first. Deal with those rather than the personalities of other people involved. Do your best to keep the conversation about things in the present. Bringing up the past will not bring resolution to the conflict.
Finally, remember that everyone has had a different life experience which has caused them to make very disparate conclusions on a variety of topics. The majority of disagreements are on issues that are quite subjective and commonly debated.
A solution to overall disagreements is to try to be agreeable. When the need arises to mention a difference of opinion, remind the person that it’s only your opinion and that you don’t judge others’ right to their own way of thinking. You’ll be amazed how many more friends you’ll have, and how much more peaceful your life will become (both inside and outside of yourself).
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